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Japan With Kids - Forums: General Discussions: Family & Parent Effectiveness Training (PET)
By Chris and Naomi Reynolds on Wednesday, November 1, 2000 - 1:03 am:

A little surprised not to find anything about PET in the Forum!...

Having some communication
difficulties with our 2-year-old girl (terrible twos, and all that!), we are wondering if it would be worthwhile doing a PET course. We would be most grateful for any kind of information, comments or suggestions about such a course:
any experience with the course and the method, how effective the method is, any good alternatives, who to contact, etc.

We are thinking about possibly taking a course (preferably with a bilingual teacher-Naomi is Japanese with good English). We live on the Toyoko Line near Yokohana.

All the best--and happy days!
Chris & Naomi (with Sarah)

By Caroline on Tuesday, January 16, 2001 - 9:29 am:

A special workshop on “Living ValuesEfor parents, young adults and children will be held on February 4th at the International Forum in Tokyo. This workshop is part of the activities sponsored by the LVEP - Living Values: An Educational Program- whose purpose is to “provide guiding principles and tools for the development of the whole person, recognizing that the individual is comprised of physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual dimensions.E Everyone is welcome to join. Please refer to the following summary of the event for information and instructions on how to register.

“Living Values for Tokyo's Multicultural Society - Workshops for Parents, Young Adults and Children
Parents, educators, and more and more children are increasingly concerned about and affected by violence, growing social problems, and lack of respect for each other and the world around them. Children often feel that their parents don't have time for them. Teens often feel that their families are hopelessly out of touch with the times. Most parents of young children are searching for ways to help their offspring become self-confident and socially adept. Parents and their teens often struggle with communication and relationships. Sometimes parent don't know how to help when their children are confronting their own issues. They fear the influence of other teenagers and would like to stay an effective, positive force as their children navigate these difficult years.
Are any of these matters of concern for you and your family?
In response to such concerns, Living Values: An Education Program (LVEP) was born out of an initial meeting of twenty educators from around the world who gathered at UNICEF Headquarters in New York City in August 1996. LVEP is now being used in more than 60 countries with very positive results. Using interactive games, songs, stories, and visualizations, the workshops aim to provide first-hand experience for participants in developing a values-based approach to life. The LVEP workshops are now being introduced to Japan. Life in Tokyo can be so hectic at times that we fail to give ourselves and others the respect we all deserve. These initial workshops on February 4 will focus on nurturing self-respect and self-esteem as well as respect for others, including a chance for parents to explore related parenting skills.
Please join us on February 4 for the following workshops. (Advance registration is requested so that interpreting can be arranged as needed.)
Date: February 4, 2001 (Sunday)
Time: 12:30 to 14:30 p.m.
Place: International Forum (near JR Yurakucho Station)
Cost: Free of charge
Registration: In Advance, by attached postcard (remember to attach 50 yen stamp) no later than January 30, 2001
Four LVEP Workshops will be conducted simultaneously (in separate rooms):
ˇ Workshop for Young Adults (Ages 15-20)
ˇ Parenting Workshop
ˇ Workshop for 3-7 Year-olds
ˇ Workshop for 8-14 Year-olds

So, come with your whole family and enjoy a few hours of stimulating, fun experiences that will inspire each participant to rekindle the universal values that give real meaning to life.
For further information:
In Spanish or Japanese: Marcela Matsumura tel:0422-37-1439; e-mail:
In English or Japanese: Evelyn Sasamoto tel: 042-551-6793; e-mail:
Sponsored by SanTama Association of Foreigners and LVEP.

By Evelyn on Sunday, October 21, 2001 - 6:20 am:

Soon-to-start parents training in LVEP (Living Values: An Educational Program)

We will be meeting once every other month for about a year starting on October 28.

CEDIF Workshops Presents "Seminars for Parents"

The first seminar will be held on October 28 and will be led by an American high school teacher, Evelyn Sasamoto. The theme will be "Tools to Impart Values to Children", based on the Living Values Education Program which is sponsored by UNICEF and supported by UNESCO.

Time: 14:00 - 16:00
Place: Nishikubo Community Center
1-23-7 Nishikubo, Musashino-shi, Tokyo
10-minute walk from JR Mitaka station, North Exit (JR Chuo line & Sobu line, and Tozai line)
Fee: 400 yen per person

The seminar will be conducted in English with translation into Spanish and Japanese.

Childcare will be available. Advance registration is required. A fee of 400 yen per child will be charged.

For registration for the seminar and for childcare, as well as inquiries, please contact: Tel: 0422-37-1439 or

We look forward to your participation.

Best wishes, Evelyn Sasamoto

By Jill on Wednesday, February 25, 2004 - 7:45 pm:

This is short notice as I didn't think it was open to parents outside the school but if anyone is interested I think there are about 4 spots left. They need the numbers by tomorrow.


DATE: Tuesday, March 2, 2004 EMay 18, 2004 ( 8 sessions)
March 2, 9,16, April 6, 13, 27, May 11, & 18

TIME: 9:00 E12:00

PLACE: Montessori School in Japan
Hilltop campus
Minami Azabu (5449-7067)

INSTRUCTOR: Chikako Ishii, MS
PET Senior Instructor
Marriage and Family Therapist at TCCS

FEE: 44,100 Yen including textbook and workbook

HOW TO PAY: to be paid into account below
Chikako Ishii
Mizuho Bank - Toritsu Kasei Branchi
(Futsu) 1450-524
????? ??????
???? 1450-524

Dr. Ishii needs an exact number of participants by the 26th in order to have
materials ready by the first class on the 2nd. If you plan to attend the
workshop kindly reply to me by the morning of the 26th, this Thursday(!).
Thank you. contact

By Admin on Tuesday, September 28, 2004 - 4:27 pm:

from Admin: this course is starting to get around on the grapevine with some positive comments attached, so I thought I'd post it myself this time. Not scheduled for working parents unfortunately.
Here is the contact email for the PET course: Priscilla Carmichael priscillacw[at]
Less fighting, fewer tantrums and lies, no need for punishment; sound good? Whether you have a toddler striking out for independence or a teenager who has already started rebelling; using the timeless methods of P.E.T. will give immediate results. All moms who signed up for the course last term are signing up again. This works! for more information.

DATES: Friday, October 8, 2004 to Friday, December 10, 2004 (8 sessions) October 8, 15, 22, November 12, 19, 26, December 3 and 10
TIME: Fridays, 9:00am to 12:00pm
PLACE: Montessori School of Tokyo, Hilltop campus
3-5-13 Minami Azabu, Minato-Ku.
Phone: 5449-7067
INSTRUCTOR: Chikako Ishii, MS (PET Senior Instructor and Marriage and Family Therapist at TCCS)
FEE: 44,100 Yen for new participants which includes textbook, workbook & JIPET membership fee.
HOW TO PAY: bank transfer to account name: Chikako Ishii
Mizuho Bank - Toritsu Kasei Branch (Futsu) 1450-524

By Pam Noda on Monday, May 9, 2005 - 9:22 pm:


What You Will Learn

-- How to talk to your children
so that they will listen to you.
-- How to listen to your
children so that they feel
genuinely understood.
-- How to resolve conflicts and
problems in your family so that
no one loses.
-- How to get family rules that
children will follow.
-- How to deal with values

Family/Parent Effectiveness
Training (F.E.T./P.E.T.) is a
method that strengthens
relationships among family
members by teaching important
communication and problem-
solving skills. The most
important thing you can give
your children and other loved
ones is an improved relationship
with you. Come to F.E.T. and
discover practical skills that
enable parents to create more
loving and caring family

Comments from Graduates

-- F.E.T. really gave me the
tools I needed to forge a good,
healthy relationship with
myself, child, and husband.

-- I no longer feel desperate
when faced with a conflict or
problem because I now know that
there are skills available to

How the Program Works

F.E.T. is a 24-hour interactive
course taught through discussion
and hands-on experience with the
communication skills. Pam Noda
is a certified Family
Effectiveness Training
Instructor and a Certified
Professional Co-Active Coach.
Mary Tadokoro is a certified
Family Effectiveness Training
Instructor. Pam and Mary have
been mothering in Japan for 23
years and are the founders of
Open Arms, an organization
supporting international
families in Japan.
JUNE 2005

DATES: June 3 ~ July 8 (six
consecutive Fridays, for a total
of 24 class hours)

TIME: 9:30 a.m. ~ 1:30 p.m.

PLACE: Kichijoji (participants
will be notified of the exact

FEE: 44,100 yen (textbook
and workbook included)

REGISTRATION: E-mail us at
{,opena}}, or
after May 15 contact
Mary Tadokoro at 0422-47-9578
(after 9:00 p.m.) or Pam Noda at

By Pam Noda on Monday, September 12, 2005 - 6:56 am:

Family/Parent Effectiveness Training (F.E.T/P.E.T.) strengthens relationships among family members by teaching communication and problem-solving skills. The most important thing you can give your children and other loved ones is an improved relationship with you. Come to F.E.T. and discover practical skills that enable parents to create more loving and caring family relationships.

Fall Classes: Six Mondays in Omotesando,
beginning October 24, 9:30 a.m. to 1:30
p.m. Also, six consecutive Fridays in
Kichijoji, beginning October 21, 9:30 a.m.
to 1:30 p.m.
Fee: 44,100, including textbook
Contact: Pam Noda, co-founder of Open Arms, at

For more information on the Family Effectiveness Training class or the Self-Care workshop for people wanting to communicate better with the Japanese close to them -- contact The Yahoo address is incorrect. Thank you!

By Pam Noda on Sunday, January 8, 2006 - 1:44 pm:

begins on Saturday, January 21 in
Omotesando. F.E.T. strengthens
relationships among family members by
teaching communication and problem-
solving skills. For parents with children of
all ages. Learn the skills BEFORE problems
develop. Come to F.E.T. and discover
practical skills that enable parents to
create more loving and caring family

Dates: January 21 ~ March 4 (no class on
Feb. 4)
Time: 9:30 a.m. ~ 1:30 p.m.
Place: Omotesando
Fee: 44,100 yen, including textbook
Contact: Pam Noda, cofounder of Open
Arms, at

By Mary Tadokoro on Tuesday, May 23, 2006 - 10:08 am:

Family/Parent Effectiveness Training (FET/
Dates: Fridays, June 2 ~ July 7,
Times: 9:30 ~ 13:00*
Place: Omotesando*
*(Note: June 2 will be from 9:00 to 12:00
in Yoyogi)

Harmony in the family is priceless—and
it's never too late or too early to cultivate
it!! Come to FET/PET to learn and practice
practical communication and problem-
solving skills that foster mutual respect
among all family members, opening and
keeping open two-way communication
channels through the thick and thin of
family life.

Pam Noda and Mary Tadokoro, both
certified FET/PET facilitators and life
coaches, co-teach this 24-hour course
using discussion and hands-on
experience. We give special attention to
the individual needs of participants and
the challenges we meet living here in

We also offer unique refresher classes to
our alumni four times a year to keep the
skills alive and to continue to deepen the

Cost: 44,100 yen (textbook and workbook

For more information or to register,
contact Open Arms' cofounders, Mary
Tadokoro or Pam Noda at

By Jake on Wednesday, August 8, 2007 - 7:03 am:

The PET is an awesome program. Although I found some really helpful stuff from a program called mustard pancakes i picked up in the states. you can watch clips of it on youtube. it really helped my kids out and i am grateful for programs like PET and Mustard Pancakes.

By Skilledheart on Wednesday, February 27, 2013 - 11:10 am:

Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) Spring 2013 Course (in Hiroo, Tokyo)
Six sessions: Mar. 4 & 13, Apr. 3 & 24, May 1 & 15, 9:00 a.m. ~ 1:00 p.m. Tuition: 60,000 yen (Sign up by March 1 to join the course for 57,000 yen)
Learn all the P.E.T. skills in six classes spread over three months to give you time to integrate P.E.T. into your family life. This interactive course teaches practical communication and problem-solving skills that foster mutual respect among family members, opening and keeping open two-way communication channels through the thick and thin of family life. The fee includes in-class time, a textbook and workbook, and two 30-minute coaching sessions with certified P.E.T. instructor Pam Noda. To sign up, email Pam at

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