I would like to know about japanese parents if they spank to their children. How do you educate or teach your children?

How do japanese people teach to their children that it's something wrong?

I'm not sure how useful this survey is in the big picture, but here is the reference to it.

"Thursday, May 3, 2001 at 16:45 JST
TOKYO EOne out of three Japanese mothers is experiencing difficulties with child rearing and one out of five worries she may be abusing her children, according to a survey published Thursday.

The survey by the Japanese Society of Child Health shows that 33.4% of mothers reported trouble raising their children and 27.4% feel unconfident about bringing up their children, the Yomiuri Shimbun reported.

The survey also revealed that 18.1% of mothers worry if they are abusing their children.

Asked in a multiple-choice question about types of abuse, 80.2% cited verbal abuse, 48.5% spanking and 17.4% overly strict discipline. (Kyodo News)"

I am from Michigan and my son and I will be moving to Japan (to join my husband who is currently working in Tokyo). I strongly believe that the best way to communicate with today's kids is to really listen to them, talk to them!!! Of course, there are other ways to communicate with our kids than to use physical force. Verbal abuse is very common in my culture (I am half Chinese). My husband (who is Japanese) used to get a knock on the head or a slap in the back of the neck from his Mom.
It isn't easy to raise today's kids and I wish you all the best. Remember though, LISTEN and TALK to them!! Sometimes I get so upset, I take a TIMEOUT with my son and later, we talked about what went wrong! Hope this help!

E.M.

Two websites I have found useful are http://www.takingchildrenseriously.com and
http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com I don't follow either approach perfectly but they have been very helpful.
Sorry if the links are too long, please copy and paste them into your browser.
Both my husband (he is Japanese, I'm American) were brought up with corporal punishment and harsh verbal criticism and are struggling to parent in a more gentle, positive way.
I have used time out with my 4 year old DS and for me the key is to see it as a chance for us BOTH to calm down and take a break from each other, rather than a punishment. He has even timed himself out a few times when he was upset. I will not lie and say I have never "lost it" and slapped him, but I do not delude myself that it was ever for his benefit. It was because I lost control of the situation and just reacted without thinking.
That is why taking a time out is important for me...it prevents me from doing something I will regret later!